I gave birth to my chidren abroad. I don’t know much about Vietnamese traditions on how to make your children bond to each other. Until recently, I discovered it is believed that if you tie their dried umbilical cords together they will grow up in love and support. I just did what I thought was the right thing to do.
Besides spending as much time as possible with my son, I bought a book about having a sibling and read it to him. He was not interested at first but gradually, with my growing tummy, he was expecting to see his baby sister.
I talked to him everyday about this new person who would be a part of his life in which he would share toys, have meals with and play with. My son was 4 at that time so he understood what I was talking about.
When due date was drawing nearer, I brought my son out for shopping. We prepare the room, the clothes for new baby. He could even choose a gift for her. He chose a cute mobile and hung it on top of her cod so she would see those little teddy bears moving.
I secretly bought a gift for my son, his favourite Ben10 watch! I gave him when the baby was born as a gift from her.
The day he came to the hospital to visit me and his baby sister, he was so shy yet excited to hold her in his arms. He was a big brother, officially!
Fast forward 2 years since they first met, there have been tantrums and fights, but at the end of the day, there are kisses, hugs and laughters that stay.
I would say having the second child is among the best decisions I have made in my life so far. It took so much energy but I am rewarded with unconditional love. And the best of all, the love they have for each other!
Wishing you all good health and happiness!
Love and sunshine,